Your energy is the most precious thing you have, most precious thing you are.

 

I personally struggled a lot with boundaries. This will be the case of in the past or during childhood you were punished or humiliated (maybe even publically) for trying to assert your own boundaries. This may have made you unsure of your own boundaries. Made you question if your boundaries were reasonable. Made you people please in order to reduce the negative consequences you feared experiencing by trying to enforce a boundary. When you do eventually try and enforce a boundary you can do so aggressively or dramatically coming across as bitter and then full of regret and remorse later. Sound familiar?

To me boundaries were confusing. You need to explore within yourself what triggers you and what doesn't. For instance if people make a friendly joke at your expense do you take offence and feel powerfless or do you laugh along and throw a joke back and think nothing if it?

explore your triggers

When did I last feel a boundary was crosses

what happened?

hiw did it make me feel? Disrespected. Humiliated. Ashamed etc 

why did it make me feel like this? 

can I remember at time in the past where I felt like this and was unable to protect myself? 

What can I do in the future to protect my energy from this external situation?

 

the pulling back method 

By one technique that I was guided to try by soul. When you feel your energy has suddenly taken a nose dive from a situation...pull back. Each situation is different. Pull your energy back to you. Your physical, emotional and mental energy. Pull it all back in. This is easier to do in some situations more than others. Go within spiritually. The pulling of your energy will be senses by the third party. Pull your energy (and thus attention) away from the situation or the person. You are not intending to insult them. This is about you. Not them. The byproduct is they will feel this energy shift and lack of attention and they make not like it. Your priority is you. Your energy is precious. You need to give yourself time to rebalance and put all your loving energy back into you. What you have done by pulling your energy back into you is you have created space between you and the situation/behaviour/person. This space is now a boundary and will be senses by the other person. How the person reacts to this boundary is about them, not you and not your concern. 

after you have done this...it may take minutes, hours days or even weeks you can respond from a more balanced place. You may wish to reconnect with that person or you may wish to make the increase in space (and thus boundary) more permanent. Let your energy levels guide you.