Releasing preferences, expectations and judgements of the DM will naturally follow after you release YOURSELF from these things.

what expectations are you putting on yourself?

what judgements are you making about yourself?

what preferences do you have about yourself?

Rather than having expectations, judgements or preferences go within and see what brings you that deep inner peace. Let inner peace be your COMPASS. Get your compass out by going within and allow it to point you in the direction that brings you this deep restorative inner peace. 
Let this be your guide in where you direct your time, energy and attention. 

once you align with this deep inner peace you will naturally release any expectations, preferences or judgements about the DM. When you touch and experience that oneness with your soul, everything in this physical material 3D realm feels irrelevant. 

what about when the physical DM comes in? Will I be at peace in his presence? You will feel immense peace. This is how you will know that you have balanced and are aligned with your soul. Use the mind, do not BE the mind. If the DMs presence is not bringing you peace, pull back, get out your compass and follow the path to peace.  

everytime you feel one of these things creeping up on you about the DM ask yourself where are you putting expectations, preferences and judgements on yourself